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The steamy one night affair:  Do you or Don't you?

The steamy one night affair: Do you or Don't you?

Dear Erica, If the opportunity for the perfect, steamy, one-time affair came along, and you knew your partner wouldn’t find out, should you (1) take it because life is too short, OR (2) pass? Best, To...

Dust and Gossip:  What would Elizabeth von Arnim say to a meddling busybody?

Dust and Gossip: What would Elizabeth von Arnim say to a meddling busybody?

Dear Erica, My husband’s widowed aunt is staying with us for the next two weeks, and she is driving me mad. Although she never had children of her own, she’s constantly commenting on my children’s ter...

Help!  My 30 year old son hates my partner.  What would Jane Austen suggest I do?

Help! My 30 year old son hates my partner. What would Jane Austen suggest I do?

Dear Erica, My 30 year old son despises the man that I love and want to build a life with. It’s tearing me apart. What should I do? Distraught in Delaware Dear Distraught in Delaware, That is a tricky...

How do you deal with toxic relatives and frenemies?  Forget Taylor Swift. George Eliot had the answers all along...

How do you deal with toxic relatives and frenemies? Forget Taylor Swift. George Eliot had the answers all along...

Dear Erica, I just went to see my cousin, who always manages to say something that makes me feel worse about my hair or my clothes or my job. But I can’t just avoid her completely, she’s family, after...

Ending an Engagement:  Break Slowly or Snap Suddenly?

Ending an Engagement: Break Slowly or Snap Suddenly?

Dear Erica, I’ve gotten engaged to my boyfriend of nearly five years, but after just a few short weeks, I’ve decided I can’t go through with it.  How can I end it as nicely as possibly?  Do I tell him...